Courteous and Discourteous People - A Mix that will Always Be

People are fickle.  To stay on point some people are courteous and others are discourteous.  Unfortunately, like growing a beautiful garden, you have to pull out the nasty weeds to help the beautiful flowers grow and flourish other wise the nasty weeds will take over and kill off the beautiful flowers.  Discourteous unapologetic people are like the nasty weeds in your garden who need to be pulled out and removed from your associations so the flowers can bloom and flourish.  Growing a beautiful garden that makes you feel really good inside is worth going through all the nasty weeds.  Building a successful business of people helping people bloom and flourish in their own ways is worth weeding through the nasty discourteous unapologetic people.  And that is not a team Beachbody thing or a business building thing it's a reflection of life itself.  I bet all of you reading this can relate to me in both your professional and personal lives.  Maybe some of you reading this are unapologetically discourteous toward other human beings.

The coolest thing about being an Independent team Beachbody coach is people.  The worst thing about being an Independent Beachbody coach is people. The products are consistently first class.   Likewise the best thing about life is people.  The worst thing about life is people.  Material things don't matter to us without having people.

Much like the continuous mix of difficulty and opportunity and nasty weeds and flowers there is always going to be a mix of courteous and discourteous people in our lives.  It's just part of the deal that we have no control over.  We are in control of how we respond.  Since there is nothing we can do about the mix of difficulty and opportunity and courteous and discourteous people there is no need to worry.  Instead, focus on your self, on your response.

I meet my share of courteous and discourteous people.  One day earlier this month I had three commitments for an appointment that other people made with me.  They approached me first because they were interested in Team Beachbody.  All three let the appointment lapse without so much as a phone call or a text message to let me know so that I could re arrange my planner.  Sometimes emergencies happen and that's different.  I don't jump to conclusions without knowing and neither should you.  When a BS excuse is given or none at all there is no control I have over that.  Because I understand there is nothing I can do about that it doesn't bother me in and of itself.  The truly bothersome part for me personally is that there are other people who are courteous who want to get started who may even need to get started because of their tough situation.   Some of them perhaps could have fit into those time slots that were discourteously lapsed without any warning.  It's rude and selfish to think that I may not have something else I could be doing to help other people improve their lives.  It's selfish and self centered for someone to get in the way of someone else who wants to improve their health and get out of poverty.  Much like the nasty weeds getting in the way of the beautiful flowers that want to bloom, discourteous people make decisions that could potentially get in the way of other people who are desperately looking for a way to improve their lives.

The only reason I probably come across more discourteous people than most is because I talk to more people than most people so proportionately its' probably about the same.  But it means I'm also coming across more courteous people than most others come across.  I meet a lot of discourteous  but people my team grew by 40 passionate individuals just in one month last month.   A year ago I was lucky if my team grew by four people in a month.  A year from now I know my teams rate of growth will have increased from 40 a month to 40 inside of a single week!  And it's going to keep going.  Thomas Watson, founder of IBM, said if you want to be successful then double your rate of failure. The same is true for your dealings with courteous and discourteous people.  If you're starting a viable business and want to find courteous passionate people to grow it with then double your rate of dealings with discourteous people.  Thats the only way to find those who are courteous, nurturing, and passionate.  There is no 'if' it will happen but only 'when' it will happen.  Each discourteous person you deal with professionally and personally brings you closer to the next courteous person you deal with who makes you feel good.  That's reason enough to be excited about every nasty unapologetic discourteous person you deal with!  The discourteous simply just need to be 'weeded out' and the real friendships you forge in the midst of your dealings will have a more profound affect on you than the nasty discourteous people ever could.

If you Join me in Team Passion Beachbody coaches I'm always going to be honest with you even if it's difficult.  You are going to meet courteous and discourteous people.  But you meet that mix anyway because it's a reflection of life.  Everything in Team Beachbody is a reflection of life.  We are just practicing old fundamentals because they've been around for thousands of years and work amazingly well.  That's why I'm doing so amazingly well.  It's why my teams growth is blowing up.  It's why Team Beachbody as a whole is doing so amazingly well.  We are largely a reflection of very old fundamentals in life.

My goal with this article is to help all of you relate to each other more in an area that is very frustrating and sometimes disheartening.  I hope that my article helps you to put your own thoughts together with greater clarity on how you feel about being treated with discourtesy from someone who you may have shown courtesy towards.  We are human beings.  It can hurt to extend courtesy to someone only be be responded to with discourtesy so why not liberate ourselves to recognize how it makes us feel and then focus on the only variable in this deal that we have control over; our own responses!   The best response to someone unapologetically discourteous is to not waste another breath on them.  The unapologetic discourteous person is a nasty weed to be pulled from your garden so the flowers can bloom.  Others may just need a quick talk and they will change once they know how you feel.  Trying to get a nasty weed to turn into a beautiful flower is not acting productively; it's not going to happen.  You cannot turn a nasty weed into a beautiful flower.  Nasty weeds can only be removed from the garden.  If you let the nasty weeds flourish then they will kill the beautiful flowers.  Would you prefer a garden of nasty weeds or a garden of beautiful flowers?  Would you rather associate more with courteous people or with discourteous people?  Would you rather grow a business of people helping people or a business of people blowing people off?  Which consequently can be the weeds that will kill the growth of your business because the flowers who want to bloom are not being given a chance to flourish.  Don't waste another breath on the unapologetic discourteous person.  Just know that you are going to run into them and when you do you know exactly what to do with them.  Nothing!

Tom
Passion For Fitness